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The wait is almost over!
We’re super excited to announce that our events will be returning soon. Join the Secret RSVP Club List to be first in line for tickets.
- Your personal live-matching experience (one-of-a-kind, patent pending)
- SUPER FUN games
- Post-event messaging
- Appetizers (YUM!)
What’s NOT included?
- Your fully-charged smartphone which you will use to view and add your guests.
- A cash or credit bar is available for drinks (drinks not included).
What's the average size of a Secret RSVP event?
Secret RSVP events are fully-hosted, medium to large-scale events. The size varies and can be between 35 to over 60 singles per event, with close to equal gender ratio.
When can I see the profiles of other guests going to the event?
You can only view the profiles of event attendees once you are checked-in by our event host at the event. This also keeps your profile private and visible only to those committed to attending the event.
How does messaging work with the event app?
After the event ends, messaging will be unlocked in the app (30 - 60 minutes after) so you can start sending messages to those you met at the event and continue the social experience.
What should I bring to the event?
Your lovely self and personal fully-charged smartphone!
What's the dress code?
Smart casual always works!
More questions? Read our Toronto Events FAQ at the bottom of the page.
You will receive an email confirmation from Eventbrite shortly after booking your tickets. If you cannot find the message in your inbox, please check your spam folder or contact firstname.lastname@example.org for assistance (do not make a second booking). Please review your booking carefully before checking out.
This is an indoor experience which will take place in either a secret or revealed venue location.
All tickets are issued as Standard entries and include a general admission to the experience. When tickets sell out, a waitlist will be opened.
Refunds up to 7 days before event. Eventbrite's fee is nonrefundable.
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You can expect a fun, relaxed and modern way to meet many singles in one evening over games and group-based activities – all within a pressure-free environment. While we won’t promise you’ll meet the “one” (although people have) – you can be sure you’ll have a great time and make meaningful connections.
Whether you’re an introvert, extrovert, shy or out-going, we attract all types of professional singles. We also see people come back to our events so we must be doing something right. We think it’s largely due to the way we designed our events to be a low-pressure way to connect IRL and that’s something we all need to do more of these days.
Let technology do the work for you! When you secretly add those you’re interested to meet at a live event, our patent-pending live-matching algorithm springs into action and assigns EVERYONE into smaller, more intimate groups for a round of SUPER-FUN games designed to help you discover personalities. There are usually 3 rounds of live-matching small groups per event.
All our dating nights in Toronto have a limit on specific ages, however, we do allow a 1 – 2-year leeway outside these ranges. So if you’re outside this age range, please let us know your interest by joining our club list for future events in your age group.
We understand that meeting singles can be nerve-wracking. The extra moral support from friends can help (and our hosts are great with helping you feel comfy too)! After all, this is a social event so your friends are always welcome to come along with you. Just remember that they also need a ticket and will be required to create a unique profile, and be prepared to join different groups to meet different people.
Nope! We’re fully-electronic! Once you have registered for the event, we will have your registration details so there is no need to bring your printed ticket.
Toronto is such a perfect fit for our events and truth be told, we could not wait to launch here. With its vibrant city life that includes some of the world’s finest restaurants, pubs and venues, Toronto is Canada’s “city that never sleeps”.
Secret RSVP events are designed to be rich in theme – right down to what we name our tables where we invite attendees to meet and interact. We do this because it not only creates great talking points but also gives our guests a chance to tell their “story” of how they met their special someone. Imagine attending one of Secret RSVP’s travel-themed events and meeting your special someone at a table named after an exotic place, such as the Cayman Islands. You can relive your experience with “I met her in the Cayman Islands!”
With Toronto’s unique culture and eclectic venues, we have so many options to work with when it comes to bringing flavour to our event themes. It’s like giving an artist a blank canvas and a diverse palette of colors.
The types of singles our events attract include a diverse mix of professions, backgrounds and personalities which is a reflection of the diversity that makes Toronto. We know that Torontonians love trying new things, are adventurous, and love meeting new people. In fact, we have been impressed with the curiosity and excitement with Secret RSVP’s new social concept amongst Toronto’s singles. In today’s singles scene, it is refreshing to see that singles in Toronto do want to meet real people and experience real connections.
The type of venue is an important part of our events experience so we select venues that are best for socializing and activities.
As for the neighborhoods we are particularly interested in, Toronto’s Entertainment District is where you might see a lot of our events in. Old Toronto, Queens Park in Yorkville and Little Italy, with their popular restaurants, pubs and fancy lounges, are also great options for Secret RSVP’s unique singles events.
We do keep the exact locations of our venues private and only reveal that to our registered guests to maintain the privacy of our members.
We also do this to maintain a degree of the mystery that has become lost from our lives. In a world that’s constantly revealing more and more of itself across social media, we have fewer and fewer surprises left. There is something special about encountering the unexpected and not being able to be fully prepared for things that can happen naturally.
While we don’t want to harp on those who may enjoy doing speed dating in Toronto, we do know that it’s not for everyone and definitely not for us.
There are already lots of speed dating events being hosted around Toronto. So if that’s something you prefer, we won’t stand in your way.
However, if you’d rather do something modern, unique, and more fun and social – then you’ve come to the right place!
Learn 7 ways we’re not like Toronto speed dating
Reason #1 : Speed Dating has a low success rate
Certainly, every Toronto speed dating company will claim their events will work for you. But what do the experts say?
Here are 3 extensive studies that put speed dating to the test to answer that question:
- Study #1: In an ABC news study, run by sociologist Dan McFarland and professor Dan Jurafsky, of Stanford University. They measured nearly 1,000 real speed dates where the candidates were single and serious about finding connections. After the research concluded, they found that only 20 percent of participants matched with each other. But what was more surprising was that out of the small group who did actually match, a mere 9 percent were successful at setting up a date following the event.
- Study #2: In a study titled, Predictors of Initial and Long-Term Outcomes of Speed-Dating researchers Asendorpf, Penke, and Back, tested close to 400 singles across 17 events. Their goal was to determine how effective speed dating was at finding a romantic partner. And how well did speed dating fare in this study? A mere 6 percent of participants ended up reaching the intimacy stage. This finding was confirmed both after 6 weeks and 1 year after the event.
- Study #3 : In a speed dating study titled “Too much of a good thing? Variety is confusing in mate choice” conducted by University of Edinburgh psychologist Alison P. Lenton and University of Essex economist Marco Francesconi. They analyzed more than 3,700 dating decisions across 84 speed-dating events. The insights gathered revealed inherent weaknesses in how speed dating works. They concluded that the fast and repetitive method of speed dating causes participants to make poor choices and leads to weak matches forming.
So what do all these studies tell us about speed dating?
Speed dating has a low “match” success rate.
The first hurdle to overcome at any speed dating event is to get a match with someone. A lot can go wrong during a typical speed “date” and if you can’t relax and be yourself, it’s pretty hard to showcase all your wonderful qualities. But even if you do match with someone there is still yet another barrier to cross. See issue #2 below.
A “match” has a low chance of leading to an actual date.
Even if you “match” with someone from a speed dating event, this does not mean it will lead to an actual date. As the experts repeatedly noticed from the studies, after the events concluded, most participants who received matches, did not follow up or were not interested in setting up a date.
So why the poor after-event success rates? The experts came to this insight:
These events do not provide participants with enough of a memorable or bonding experience to occur.
While speed dating may be efficient at organizing a small group of singles together in a structured format, its fast meeting method is not effective at building strong enough connections to proceed to actual dates.
Speed Dates vs Shared Experiences
Most would agree that speed dating is an efficient method of meeting but is it effective? You can be efficient with things but people are not things. Not everyone can relax in an environment where they are feeling pressured or judged.
The core issue with speed “dates” is that they often resort to dull small talk that many attendees claim resembles more of a job interview. Everyone is in a hurry to “get the goods” which leads to repetitive questions or awkward silences and that can really drain the energy between attendees.
Repeating this dull process many times over becomes an experience a person has to endure. It’s no wonder attendees often can’t recall whom they wrote down as matches on their scorecard or what they even talked about.
In contrast, when people have an activity or game and are having fun interacting with other people organically, there is a greater chance for people to relax, be themself, and have shared experiences.
This is why we designed Secret RSVP events to work this way.
Our aim is for attendees to have fun while spontaneously having memorable moments with other singles.
As the scientific research clearly indicates above, this is the right approach.
Singles need a memorable or bonding experience.
We’ve seen it happen time and time again. What commonly occurs after our events, is that attendees who met and felt a spark will continue their conversations through our event app. They have talking points and highlights that occurred during their shared event experience. This bond helps them continue their conversations successfully and move to the next step and set up actual dates.
Reason #2 : We make Toronto dating fun and relaxed through playing games.
Speed dating is not exactly what most would call relaxing or fun. Its method of meeting is notorious for “dates” that are repetitive and filled with interview-style conversations.
You are there to go through a treadmill of awkward “dates” which can be exhausting. It’s also high-pressure and can be hard to showcase yourself so people can get to know the real attractive you.
When we’re under a tight deadline to perform, we immediately feel stress and pressure. Olympic athletes spend years training so they can perform at a peak level for one event. A first date can is stressful enough but having to wade through an assembly line of “dates” is a nerve-wracking ordeal. This is a hard and unnatural way to meet someone at first.
The pressure is always high at speed dating events because you only have a few minutes to make the perfect first impression. This arrangement makes it hard to relax and be yourself so people can get to know the real you. This is a lost opportunity.
This is why Secret RSVP events focus on helping you relax through play. You will always be more attractive when you are relaxed and having fun. As Plato once said:
“You Can Discover More About a Person in an Hour of Play than in a Year of Conversation”
This is why we use group games and activities so you can get to know others more naturally through play. This is where chemistry is often discovered between people and you just never know when it shows up.
Play is also a great way to drop your guard and just have fun in-the-moment. Having a game or activity to focus on, allows you to make a better first impression, and is a great way to remove the pressure of meeting new people.
That’s why a key focus of Secret RSVP events is to enable an experience that’s more about having fun and making friends first. Meeting new singles should be a fun experience – not something to dread.
There is nothing that brings people together better and more memorable than enjoying fun and games with others. Whether you’re playing the latest party game or working together as a team, this is how personalities naturally come out which leads to bonding and discovering chemistry in a natural way.
Games are a great way to have fun while getting to know others in a more organic way.
The way we see it, the more we help you relax, the more you can be yourself so others can get to know you as you really are.
There‘s a reason our events commonly go beyond the official event end times. It’s because people are enjoying the experience that’s occurring around them.
Reason #3 : Enjoy a unique Toronto dating experience where you get to choose who you want to meet – with your phone.
At your typical Toronto speed dating events, you’ll have to sit through every single one on one date – there is no escape. Many will say “well it’s only 4 minutes”. But that’s not really true. Sometimes a whole event can be filled with a whole string of awkward dates that turns into a 2-hour long dull evening out.
At Secret RSVP events, you’ll need to bring your phone because it’s a big part of the Toronto dating event experience.
This is because you have control over what happens during the evening which you do by secretly indicating your interests using the Secret RSVP event app on your phone.
This is done mostly at the start of the event. Then, the algorithm does the hard part of finding the right connections and inviting everyone to meet in small groups over 3 rounds.
And since no one knows how they’re connected in groups, you can relax and can get to know others without expectations. And no one knows if you’re interested in them.
Reason #4 : Meet more singles than you would at Toronto speed dating events.
Speed dating events are typically small and must be capped due to event time constraints. Most speed dating Toronto companies promise a minimum of 5 singles for you to meet. The max is dependent on the event schedule so the more daters they let in the less time you’ll have to get to know each date so there is a limit they need to maintain.
Their events are heavily dependent on turnout which can affect gender balancing. So if just one gender does not show, you may have to sit alone for some rounds.
Dating is after all a numbers game. The more singles you can meet the better. This is why Secret RSVP events are larger-scale and can be as large as 60 attendees. Your chances of finding someone compatible increases the more people we have in attendance.
Reason #5 : It’s cooler than Toronto speed dating events.
When speed dating was first invented over 20 years ago, events attracted diverse crowds. Up for a laugh, people were willing to try it out. But as the years have gone on, the “shine” and popularity of speed dating has dwindled which has led to very different audiences.
Maybe you’re wondering if speed dating is worth your time and money. Maybe you’re embarrassed to admit to anyone you’re thinking of going.
You’re not alone.
Many singles interested in Toronto dating are also wondering the same things.
And if you read any of those threads, you can quickly see the kind of reputation speed dating has.
Unlike typical speed dating in Toronto, we don’t ring any bells or use any cheesy name tags. Our focus is always on keeping things cool and relaxed so you can focus on being your unique and sexy self.
Reason #6 : Toronto dating should be relaxed.
Speed dating is a one-on-one format. Not everyone likes that.
Some people are way more comfortable in a group where the focus and pressure is spread out and they can interact on a more relaxed level.
A lot of key communication is non-verbal and easier to read when you’re not in a one-on-one situation.
This is why Secret RSVP events are structured so you first meet others through activities. It’s a great way to meet new people. Conversations flow more naturally when there are others about, plus you can always talk while you’re experiencing an activity along the way.
After all, we believe your first one-on-one “date” experience should be after our event with just the two of you. That’s when you can share more of yourself and build on your shared experience.
Reason #7 : We offer more than a typical Toronto dating event.
Speed dating events are only about finding someone to date.
But sometimes the best marriages start out as friendships. That’s why the aim of our events is to get to know others while in a team.
Again, if your aim is to find someone to share your life, you need to find a great team player. That’s why we play lots of games that involve working as teams.
When you are set up in just 1 on 1 situations, it’s pretty hard to get to know others of the opposite gender at the event.
The great part about our events is that not only can you meet someone for romantic interests but many of our attendees also end up meeting new friends, and even for networking purposes as well.
While we don’t promise you’ll meet “the one” you do know that you will have a fun night out and meet a lot of new singles along the way.
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