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A patented singles game night with real-time matching—the modern alternative to speed dating

Not speed dating. Not a mixer.

This is a live-matching game night—use your phone to privately tap profiles of people you want to meet. Discreet invites seat you in small, rotating mystery groups, then the games begin.

Small groups. Hosted games. Real connections.

Feels like a great night out—not some awkward dating event.

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A Smarter, More Human Way to Meet IRL

Never make the first move
No cold approaches—your private picks guide the seating.
Designed for connection
A touch of mystery plus social psychology sparks genuine curiosity and natural connection.
Games melt the ice
You’ll laugh before names even stick. Every round keeps the energy easy and real.
Fun night, not forced
Relaxed pacing, welcoming hosts, local vibe. Be yourself.

How Secret RSVP works

Choose Privately

At check-in, browse profiles and tap your picks. Your choices stay private—no cold approaches, no pressure.

Get Matched, Then Play

Based on your private picks, you’re seated into a small, rotating group each round. Discreet phone invites guide you; hosts run the games.

Discover Connections

Laugh. Connect. Repeat. Each round is designed to spark natural conversation, connection, and maybe something more.

Post-Event · 3-Day Private Chat

When the last round ends, a private chat opens for 72 hours so you can follow up and swap info at your pace.

Hear It From Guests

We’ve hosted thousands of singles. Some arrived unsure—and left surprised.
Watch why guests say the night felt easy, human, and actually fun.

What Women Loved

Comfort · No cold approaches · Real chemistry

“perfect for shy people; games broke the ice” [1:16]

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What Men Discovered

Easy conversations · Breaks the ice fast · Better than speed dating

“way better than speed dating“ [0:16]

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Results at a Glance

After hosting thousands of singles, clear patterns show up—more than just “it went well”

95%

Active during the night

Most guests actively updating their private pick list—the selections that seat your small groups each round.

89%

Keep Talking After

Most continue the conversation in the 3-day private chat or swap contact info after the event.

And the Fun Doesn’t Stop

Many events turn into spontaneous after-parties. When the format works, people want more.

Active = checked-in guests who added to their private list during event. Non-adders typically include late arrivals, people who preferred to be seated without picking, didn’t see a fit, or weren’t aware of picks. Based on random past events. Keep talking = sent/received a message in the 3-day chat or reported exchanging contact info post-event (survey).

Trusted by Partners Across North America

Event pros, social curators, and community leaders trust Secret RSVP because it breaks the ice fast and helps guests connect.

Charlotte, NC

The event went great and everyone had so much fun! I got some great feedback!

Amanda Rose

Dating Boutique Inc.

Washington, DC

Secret RSVP™ was an amazing value add to our daters experience. The games were a brilliant way for daters to shake nervous jitters. Secret RSVP™ is exactly what dating deserves!

Maliaka Mealy

DC / United Fray Events Producer

Calgary, AB

Secret RSVP™ is a fantastic way to help break the ice for any medium-large scale social event. Technology, in the right hands, can be used to bring people together and help form relationships in real life, and this concept absolutely does this.

Cory Harasym

Small Group Pastor

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How Your Phone Helps You Connect

Use it during and after the event.

Add Guest

Tap to quietly add someone to your Secret Guest list—your private picks seat you each round.

Guestlist

See everyone you’ve added during the night—one private view.

Invites

You’ll get discreet invites that seat you in small, rotating groups—no cold approaches.

Send Message

After the event, a 3-day private chat opens so you can follow up at your pace.

Patented Technology

Our matching system is patented and built for in-the-moment discovery—no swiping, no guesswork, no cold intros.

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Ages 30 – 45

Oct 3rd

Date: 2025
Time: 7:00 PM (Check-In)
Venue: TBD
Address: TBD
Ages: 28 – 45
Attire: Smart Casual

You’ll Feel Right at Home—Even If You Come Solo
Most guests arrive solo (about 80%). From check-in onward, you’re seated in small, rotating mystery groups—so you can ease in without awkward starts or wandering.

Not a Mixer—It’s Smart Matching
Our patented live-matching connects you in real time with people you’re curious about. You choose privately; you’re seated in small, rotating mystery groups.

The Vibe Is Fun, Not Forced
Hosted games and playful themes spark laughs and real conversation—never cringey “icebreakers.”

Designed for Comfort and Safety
Private areas, smaller rounds, and a no-pressure flow. You’re in control and never put on the spot.

Our Hosts Have You Covered
Friendly hosts guide the whole night so it runs smoothly—and you can just enjoy yourself.

More Than a Date Night—It’s a Connection Night
Whether you meet a match, make a friend, or leave with a great story, you’ll meet 40–60 like-minded people in one night.

Good for Your Mental Health
In a lonely era, face-to-face play and conversation can help you feel less isolated, more seen, and genuinely lighter in the moment. We’re not therapy—but the night is designed to support social well-being.

“You can discover more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation”
– Plato (Greek philosopher)

What we play

Proprietary games, designed for real connection.
Co-created with game designers and psychology experts and refined over years of live events. Exclusive to Secret RSVP—low-pressure, playful, and tuned for the live-matching experience.

Why it works (the science of play)

Real signals, fast: Play surfaces humor, empathy, and vibe faster than small talk.
Unguarded moments: People are more spontaneous during play—real personality > rehearsed bios.
Shared momentum: Light competition and group wins create instant rapport.

How it runs (live-matching rounds)

Round structure: patented live-matching rounds seat you in a new small group.
Invites: Discreet phone invites guide you to each table—no cold approaches.
Hosts: A friendly MC keeps timing, explains rules in seconds, and ensures everyone’s included.

Inclusive by Design
Loud, quiet, social, or shy—you’re part of the fun without being put on the spot.

Why Guests Love It
“Way better than speed dating. I was laughing, not performing.”
“The games made it easy to just be myself. No pressure.”
“You meet people as they are—not just what they say.”

Themes and games vary by date and city.

Live-Matching Experience
We’ve taken the hard part of singles events out so you don’t have to. Our patented, in-person system seats you with people you choose—privately, in real time. No cold intros, no swiping, no public profiles.

Proprietary Games (built for live-matching)
Co-created with game designers and psychology experts. Three rounds, three different games—playful, low-pressure, tuned for small, rotating groups.

3-Day Private Chat (post-event)
Opens 60 minutes after the event so you can follow up, flirt, or plan a second hang—at your pace.

Fully Hosted, Fully Guided
From welcome to wrap-up, professional hosts keep the flow smooth. You’re supported—not put on the spot.

Fun Extras & Prizes
Light, optional challenges. Show up and lean in—creativity and curiosity might just pay off.

How big are Secret RSVP events?
Typically 35–60+ guests in a fully hosted format—big enough for variety, small enough for real conversation. We pace sales to help keep the room balanced.

What if I don’t choose anyone—or if no one chooses me? Will I still be assigned to a table?
Yes—if you’re checked in and on time, you’ll be seated. Arriving after rounds begin may delay and impact future seating.

Are Secret RSVP events just for extroverts?
No. The format is built for introverts and ambiverts too: small, rotating groups, clear prompts, and hosted flow—so you never have to cold-approach or carry a conversation alone. You control your pace.

I’m not sure I’m ready to put myself out there (I’m open to friends, not just dating).
That’s totally fine. Many guests make new friends. You can use the post-event chat to follow up at your pace—whether that’s a coffee date or new friends for hikes and hangouts.

Will I meet everyone? Is the room 50/50?
No. With small, rotating groups, you won’t meet every guest—and perfect gender balance isn’t guaranteed. We pace sales to keep things even, but chemistry beats quotas. You’ll also have other chances to meet more people during arrivals, between-round mingles, occasional whole-room moments, and after the rounds (many nights roll into casual hangouts). Your 3-day private chat helps you follow up with people you connected with.

Do I have to approach people?
No. You choose privately; we seat you in small, rotating groups—no cold approaches. Hosts run the games so it stays easy.

When can I see who else is attending?
Profiles unlock after check-in at the event. It keeps everything private until everyone’s really there.

Do I need a profile?
Yes. A simple profile is required for check-in, your private picks, discreet invites, and the 3-day private chat.

Can I leave early?
Leaving mid-event disrupts matching for everyone. If an emergency comes up, tell a host before you go so we can check you out and remove you from rotations. If you leave without checking out, your ticket may be forfeited, post-event features (including the 3-day private chat) may be disabled, and we may restrict or deny future bookings to protect the experience for other guests.

What if I need to step out briefly?
Grab a host and we’ll pause your seatings for the next rotation and guide you back in when you’re ready. Please don’t leave mid-round without checking in with us—it throws off the seating for others.

How does messaging work after the event?
About 60 minutes after wrap-up, your 3-day private chat opens so you can follow up at your pace.

Will there be photos or video? Can I opt out?
We sometimes capture photos or short clips for recap/marketing. By attending, you consent unless you tell us otherwise. To opt out, tell the host at check-in or email us and we’ll flag your profile.

Is the venue accessible?
It depends on the venue. We list the venue and address on the event card—please review the venue’s own accessibility details or contact them directly, and message us if you need help confirming specifics.

What ID do I need?
Bring a government-issued photo ID that shows your date of birth (driver’s license, passport, provincial/state ID). The name/age on your profile must match your ID. We can’t accept photos or photocopies.

What if I forget my ID?
We may refuse entry per our Terms. Tickets are non-refundable.

What should I wear?
Smart-casual—what you’d wear to a great lounge. Comfortable and confident is perfect.

What should I bring?
Just two things:

An open mind (curiosity + a favorite drink from the bar = great night)
A fully charged phone (for check-in, private picks, and invites)

Code of conduct?
Be kind. No harassment. We may remove any guest who disrupts the experience or makes others uncomfortable.

Can I just show up at the door?
No—advance booking is required so we can balance the room. Events often sell out—book early.

How do I know my booking went through?
You’ll get an email confirmation right after purchase. Don’t see it? Check spam/junk. Still nothing? Contact us—please don’t buy a second ticket.

What kind of ticket am I buying?
All tickets are Standard entry (general admission). If the event fills, we open a waitlist.

Are tickets refundable?
All sales are final. If Secret RSVP cancels or reschedules, or an event is impacted by last-minute emergencies or weather, we issue an event credit for the ticket price. Credits are valid for 6 months and for non-private events.

How do credits work?
Credits are one-time use and can be applied to one future event, subject to availability. To apply a credit, contact us 14+ days before the date you want. If you miss that rebooked event, the credit isn’t reissued.

Are taxes included?
Taxes are added at checkout based on the event location (provincial/federal taxes in Canada; state/local taxes in the U.S.).

Meet Your New York Hosts

Real people run the night. Our hosts are trained in Secret RSVP’s live-matching system, so you never have to cold-approach or figure things out alone.

Cory

I genuinely think life is too short. Too hard. So loud and brash. We often forget to honor each moment and breath as we take it. I’m here to remind ourselves of these moments. A moment of laughter, a moment of an embrace, a moment of a warm smile.

Anyone can host a dating event, anyone can tell you deserve a partner, that you are a great catch and will leave with your special someone for, I offer another option. As your host of Secret RSVP I work to bring you a date night that celebrates the true you, a night that celebrates your insecurities and your talents coming to the forefront and sharing it with the world. A night that embraces your personality and your heart. We get to witness the miracle that you are. A place to grab each special moment, a good drink, buzz of energy, a room full of hearts and authenticity all within the walls of Secret RSVP.

Who am I? My name is Cory. Creator / Performer / Poet / Guest Specialist / a lover of humans. If you would like to connect as a community you can find me @thecoryterrell on Instagram. Thank you for choosing me to be your guide and cheerleader. I know you will have an incredible, spiritual, romantic experience here at Secret RSVP. God bless you.

Samantha

It’s ya fav matchmaker with a heart full of laughs and a knack for making connections! I’m here to keep the energy high, the smiles wide, and the sparks flying during every round of live-matching. Whether it’s a wink, a joke, or a clever icebreaker, I’m all about creating the perfect vibe for those quick, but memorable first impressions. Let’s make love at first sight (or at least a lot of fun)!

New York Venues

Secret RSVP™ is proud to host our exclusive live-matched singles events at some of New York City’s most stylish and sophisticated venues. Our carefully selected locations in vibrant neighborhoods such as Manhattan, Brooklyn, and the Lower East Side provide the perfect ambiance for meeting new people and enjoying memorable evenings.

In Manhattan, we host events at trendy rooftop bars in the Meatpacking District, offering breathtaking views of the city skyline. The chic lounges in SoHo are known for their elegant decor and intimate atmosphere, creating the ideal setting for meaningful connections.

Over in Brooklyn, our events take place in hip and artsy venues in Williamsburg, known for its unique charm and lively nightlife. Whether you prefer the bustling energy of Manhattan or the cool, laid-back vibe of Brooklyn, our venues cater to every taste and style.

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New York Singles Events FAQ

Our events are unique in every city we host in. If your question isn’t answered here, visit our event support FAQ page.

Secret RSVP is a live-matched singles event with small-group games—our patented system seats you with people you choose privately. It’s a modern alternative to speed dating designed to spark real conversation without cold approaches.

No. It’s a live-matched, game-based format. You choose privately on your phone, we seat you in small, rotating groups, and hosts guide three short rounds—so it feels like a fun night out, not traditional speed dating.

The City that never sleeps – New York City is a vibrant, bustling metropolis known for its fast-paced lifestyle, diverse population, and endless opportunities for social interaction. Whether you’re a local or new to the city, NYC offers a unique blend of cultures, cuisines, and experiences that make it an exciting place to meet new people. With countless bars, restaurants, parks, and cultural events, singles have a multitude of venues to explore and connect with others. The city’s energy and diversity ensure that there’s something for everyone, making it a fantastic place to find romantic, friendship, or networking connections.

Our NYC singles events offer you a fresh and engaging way to meet potential connections. With our award-winning live-matching technology, you’ll be invited to smaller groups with those you secretly indicate on our app that you’re curious about, as well as those interested in you. Imagine attending an event that feels more like a fun night out with friends, where you can relax, play interactive games, and enjoy natural conversations. The live-matching aspect ensures that attendees are brought together with those they have a genuine connection with, making each event unique and personalized. While you’re at it, your secret interests are safe with us!

Our events are hosted in some of the most exciting and accessible neighborhoods in NYC, providing you with stylish and welcoming environments to meet new people. From chic rooftop bars with stunning views of the city skyline to cozy lounges in vibrant neighborhoods like Midtown, Soho, and the East Village, each location is chosen to enhance your social experience. You’ll find it easy to relax, have fun, and make meaningful connections in these vibrant settings.

While we do not host traditional speed dating events, our NYC singles events offer a modern and engaging alternative. Picture group speed dating where you get to choose whom you’re curious about, all while having fun discovering more about one another through interactive games. We create a relaxed and enjoyable atmosphere where you can interact naturally, eliminating the high-pressure environment of typical speed dating and mixers. This allows for more authentic and enjoyable connections. Come away with new friends, an amazing night out, and possibly, romantic connections!

Learn more about how our events are a modern alternative to traditional speed dating.

Our events are organized by different age groups to ensure you meet others at a similar life stage. While age is just a number, we typically host events for those between 25 to 43, with a 1-2 year leeway. Check our events page to find the right event for you, ensuring you connect with people who share similar interests and experiences. If you’re outside this age range, please let us know your interest by joining our club list for future events in your age group.

We are always innovating to make our events more exciting and enjoyable for you. Our themed but inclusive events offer something for everyone, with games designed to maximize interaction and build camaraderie. You’ll get to showcase your unique personality while connecting with others in fun and engaging ways. Keep an eye on our website and social media for the latest event offerings and exclusive surprises that will make each event an unforgettable experience.

Secret RSVP™ has been featured in several news outlets and online publications, highlighting our innovative concept and positive attendee experiences. Check out our media page to see how we’ve garnered media attention and why our events are the talk of the town. Discover why Secret RSVP™ is the go-to choice for singles looking for authentic and enjoyable connections.

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