OTTAWA Singles Events

World’s 1st Live-Matched Game Nights

Choose privately. No awkward intros.

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A patented singles game night with real-time matching—the modern alternative to speed dating

Not speed dating. Not a mixer.

This is a live-matching game night—use your phone to privately tap profiles of people you want to meet. Discreet invites seat you in small, rotating mystery groups, then the games begin.

Small groups. Hosted games. Real connections.

Feels like a great night out—not some awkward dating event.

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A Smarter, More Human Way to Meet IRL

  • Never make the first move
    No cold approaches—your private picks guide the seating.
  • Designed for connection
    A touch of mystery plus social psychology sparks genuine curiosity and natural connection.
  • Games melt the ice
    You’ll laugh before names even stick. Every round keeps the energy easy and real.
  • Fun night, not forced
    Relaxed pacing, welcoming hosts, local vibe. Be yourself.

Connect and Play
Every round pairs you with a new group—curated from your private picks.
No awkward intros. Just real people and easy flow—every time.
Meet 40–60 singles. Every group curated in real time.

How Secret RSVP works

1

Choose Privately

At check-in, browse profiles and tap your picks. Your choices stay private—no cold approaches, no pressure.

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Get Matched, Then Play

Based on your private picks, you’re seated into a small, rotating group each round. Discreet phone invites guide you; hosts run the games.

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Discover Connections

Laugh. Connect. Repeat. Each round is designed to spark natural conversation, connection, and maybe something more.

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Post-Event · 3-Day Private Chat

When the last round ends, a private chat opens for 72 hours so you can follow up and swap info at your pace.

Hear It From Guests

We’ve hosted thousands of singles. Some arrived unsure—and left surprised.
Watch why guests say the night felt easy, human, and actually fun.

What Women Loved

Comfort · No cold approaches · Real chemistry

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What Men Discovered

Easy conversations · Breaks the ice fast · Better than speed dating

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Results at a Glance

After hosting thousands of singles, clear patterns show up—more than just “it went well”

95%
Active during the night

Most guests actively updating their private pick list—the selections that seat your small groups each round.

89%
Keep Talking After

Most continue the conversation in the 3-day private chat or swap contact info after the event.

And the Fun Doesn’t Stop

Many events turn into spontaneous after-parties. When the format works, people want more.

Active = checked-in guests who added to their private list during event. Non-adders typically include late arrivals, people who preferred to be seated without picking, didn’t see a fit, or weren’t aware of picks. Based on random past events. Keep talking = sent/received a message in the 3-day chat or reported exchanging contact info post-event (survey).

Trusted by Partners Across North America

Event pros, social curators, and community leaders trust Secret RSVP because it breaks the ice fast and helps guests connect.

Charlotte, NC
The event went great and everyone had so much fun! I got some great feedback!
Amanda Rose
Dating Boutique Inc.
Washington, DC
Secret RSVP™ was an amazing value add to our daters experience. The games were a brilliant way for daters to shake nervous jitters. Secret RSVP™ is exactly what dating deserves!
Maliaka Mealy
DC / United Fray Events Producer
Calgary, AB
Secret RSVP™ is a fantastic way to help break the ice for any medium-large scale social event. Technology, in the right hands, can be used to bring people together and help form relationships in real life, and this concept absolutely does this.
Cory Harasym
Small Group Pastor
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How Your Phone Helps You Connect

Use it during and after the event.

Add Guest

Tap to quietly add someone to your Secret Guest list—your private picks seat you each round.

Guestlist

See everyone you’ve added during the night—one private view.

Invites

You’ll get discreet invites that seat you in small, rotating groups—no cold approaches.

Send Message

After the event, a 3-day private chat opens so you can follow up at your pace.

Patented Technology

Our matching system is patented and built for in-the-moment discovery—no swiping, no guesswork, no cold intros.

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Ottawa Singles Events

Ages 30 – 45

  • Date: Thursday, October 30, 2025
  • Time: 7:00 pm
  • Venue: Mulligans Golf Bar
  • Address: 201 Queen St
  • City: Ottawa
  • Details: Private area
  • Ages: 30 - 45
  • Attire: Smart casual

Ladies tickets

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You’ll Feel Right at Home—Even If You Come Solo
Most guests arrive solo (about 80%). From check-in onward, you’re seated in small, rotating mystery groups—so you can ease in without awkward starts or wandering.

Not a Mixer—It’s Smart Matching
Our patented live-matching connects you in real time with people you’re curious about. You choose privately; you’re seated in small, rotating mystery groups.

The Vibe Is Fun, Not Forced
Hosted games and playful themes spark laughs and real conversation—never cringey “icebreakers.”

Designed for Comfort and Safety
Private areas, smaller rounds, and a no-pressure flow. You’re in control and never put on the spot.

Our Hosts Have You Covered
Friendly hosts guide the whole night so it runs smoothly—and you can just enjoy yourself.

More Than a Date Night—It’s a Connection Night
Whether you meet a match, make a friend, or leave with a great story, you’ll meet 40–60 like-minded people in one night.

Good for Your Mental Health
In a lonely era, face-to-face play and conversation can help you feel less isolated, more seen, and genuinely lighter in the moment. We’re not therapy—but the night is designed to support social well-being.

“You can discover more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation”
– Plato (Greek philosopher)

What we play

Proprietary games, designed for real connection.
Co-created with game designers and psychology experts and refined over years of live events. Exclusive to Secret RSVP—low-pressure, playful, and tuned for the live-matching experience.

Why it works (the science of play)
  • Real signals, fast: Play surfaces humor, empathy, and vibe faster than small talk.
  • Unguarded moments: People are more spontaneous during play—real personality > rehearsed bios.
  • Shared momentum: Light competition and group wins create instant rapport.
How it runs (live-matching rounds)
  • Round structure: patented live-matching rounds seat you in a new small group.
  • Invites: Discreet phone invites guide you to each table—no cold approaches.
  • Hosts: A friendly MC keeps timing, explains rules in seconds, and ensures everyone’s included.

Inclusive by Design
Loud, quiet, social, or shy—you’re part of the fun without being put on the spot.

Why Guests Love It
“Way better than speed dating. I was laughing, not performing.”
“The games made it easy to just be myself. No pressure.”
“You meet people as they are—not just what they say.”

Themes and games vary by date and city.

Live-Matching Experience
We’ve taken the hard part of singles events out so you don’t have to. Our patented, in-person system seats you with people you choose—privately, in real time. No cold intros, no swiping, no public profiles.

Proprietary Games (built for live-matching)
Co-created with game designers and psychology experts. Three rounds, three different games—playful, low-pressure, tuned for small, rotating groups.

3-Day Private Chat (post-event)
Opens 60 minutes after the event so you can follow up, flirt, or plan a second hang—at your pace.

Fully Hosted, Fully Guided
From welcome to wrap-up, professional hosts keep the flow smooth. You’re supported—not put on the spot.

Fun Extras & Prizes
Light, optional challenges. Show up and lean in—creativity and curiosity might just pay off.

How big are Secret RSVP events?
Typically 40–60+ guests in a fully hosted format—big enough for variety, small enough for real conversation. We pace sales to help keep the room balanced.

What if I don’t choose anyone—or if no one chooses me? Will I still be assigned to a table?
Yes—if you’re checked in and on time, you’ll be seated. Arriving after rounds begin may delay and impact future seating.

Are Secret RSVP events just for extroverts?
No. The format is built for introverts and ambiverts too: small, rotating groups, clear prompts, and hosted flow—so you never have to cold-approach or carry a conversation alone. You control your pace.

I’m not sure I’m ready to put myself out there (I’m open to friends, not just dating).
That’s totally fine. Many guests make new friends. You can use the post-event chat to follow up at your pace—whether that’s a coffee date or new friends for hikes and hangouts.

Will I meet everyone? Is the room 50/50?
No. With small, rotating groups, you won’t meet every guest—and perfect gender balance isn’t guaranteed. We pace sales to keep things even, but chemistry beats quotas. You’ll also have other chances to meet more people during arrivals, between-round mingles, occasional whole-room moments, and after the rounds (many nights roll into casual hangouts). Your 3-day private chat helps you follow up with people you connected with.

Do I have to approach people?
No. You choose privately; we seat you in small, rotating groups—no cold approaches. Hosts run the games so it stays easy.

When can I see who else is attending?
Profiles unlock after check-in at the event. It keeps everything private until everyone’s really there.

Do I need a profile?
Yes. A simple profile is required for check-in, your private picks, discreet invites, and the 3-day private chat.

Can I leave early?
Leaving mid-event disrupts matching for everyone. If an emergency comes up, tell a host before you go so we can check you out and remove you from rotations. If you leave without checking out, your ticket may be forfeited, post-event features (including the 3-day private chat) may be disabled, and we may restrict or deny future bookings to protect the experience for other guests.

What if I need to step out briefly?
Grab a host and we’ll pause your seatings for the next rotation and guide you back in when you’re ready. Please don’t leave mid-round without checking in with us—it throws off the seating for others.

How does messaging work after the event?
About 60 minutes after wrap-up, your 3-day private chat opens so you can follow up at your pace.

Will there be photos or video? Can I opt out?
We sometimes capture photos or short clips for recap/marketing. By attending, you consent unless you tell us otherwise. To opt out, tell the host at check-in or email us and we’ll flag your profile.

Is the venue accessible?
It depends on the venue. We list the venue and address on the event card—please review the venue’s own accessibility details or contact them directly, and message us if you need help confirming specifics.

What ID do I need?
Bring a government-issued photo ID that shows your date of birth (driver’s license, passport, provincial/state ID). The name/age on your profile must match your ID. We can’t accept photos or photocopies.

What if I forget my ID?
We may refuse entry per our Terms. Tickets are non-refundable.

What should I wear?
Smart-casual—what you’d wear to a great lounge. Comfortable and confident is perfect.

What should I bring?
Just two things:

  1. An open mind (curiosity + a favorite drink from the bar = great night)
  2. A fully charged phone (for check-in, private picks, and invites)

Code of conduct?
Be kind. No harassment. We may remove any guest who disrupts the experience or makes others uncomfortable.

Can I just show up at the door?
No—advance booking is required so we can balance the room. Events often sell out—book early.

How do I know my booking went through?
You’ll get an email confirmation right after purchase. Don’t see it? Check spam/junk. Still nothing? Contact us—please don’t buy a second ticket.

What kind of ticket am I buying?
All tickets are Standard entry (general admission). If the event fills, we open a waitlist.

Are tickets refundable?
All sales are final. If Secret RSVP cancels or reschedules, or an event is impacted by last-minute emergencies or weather, we issue an event credit for the ticket price. Credits are valid for 6 months and for non-private events.

How do credits work?
Credits are one-time use and can be applied to one future event, subject to availability. To apply a credit, contact us 14+ days before the date you want. If you miss that rebooked event, the credit isn’t reissued.

Are taxes included?
Taxes are added at checkout based on the event location (provincial/federal taxes in Canada; state/local taxes in the U.S.).

Meet Your Ottawa Hosts

Real people run the night. Our hosts are trained in Secret RSVP’s live-matching system, so you never have to cold-approach or figure things out alone.

Ana-Julia

Hi everyone! I’m Ana-Julia from Ottawa!

“I’m your vibrant and enthusiastic host, ready to make sure we all have an absolute blast together. With my energy, creativity, and love for bringing people together, I’ll be your go-to gal for making every moment unforgettable. Whether it’s hyping up the crowd, sharing a laugh, or ensuring everything runs smoothly, I’m here to keep the vibes high and the fun rolling.

Let’s make these events one for the books—can’t wait to see all your amazing smiles and have fun with you!”

Alexis

Meet your hostess-with-the-mostess, Alexis!

Armed with a microphone and an encyclopedic knowledge of terrible bar trivia, I’m here to guide you through matchmaking with a smile – and maybe a sarcastic comment or two.

A master at making sure no one runs for the door mid-date, I’m your go-to for a night of fast-paced fun, questionable trivia questions, and possible future love connections… of at least a few funny stories to tell!

Ottawa Venues

Mulligans Golf Bar

Ottawa’s amazing restaurants, bars and pubs are the perfect venues for Secret RSVP™ events. We are picky with where we host our events because we strive for venues with the right balance of having a soiree experience and being able to actually enjoy conversations, while keeping things fun, relaxed and classy. (You have to hear someone to get to know someone!) 

At times, we may not reveal our event venues on the event page openly. Only event ticket holders will have access to such exclusive information when their tickets are confirmed upon purchase. This is to prevent people from *crashing* our parties (yes – it has happened before because tickets are limited, and it allows us to maintain an even gender ratio to optimize live matching).

You can always expect Secret RSVP™ events to be hosted in the most trendy and publicly accessible parts of downtown Ottawa. By the way, we’re always on the lookout for new venues and locations, so if you have suggestions or would love to partner with us, we are all ears.

Singles events in Ottawa — Searching for Ottawa speed dating or Ottawa singles events?

Secret RSVP is the live-matched alternative: patented seating, small-group games, and a 3-day post-event chat.

Ottawa Singles Events FAQ

Our events are unique in every city we host in. If your question isn’t answered here, visit our event support FAQ page.

Secret RSVP is a live-matched singles event with small-group games—our patented system seats you with people you choose privately. It’s a modern alternative to speed dating designed to spark real conversation without cold approaches.

No. It’s a live-matched, game-based format. You choose privately on your phone, we seat you in small, rotating groups, and hosts guide three short rounds—so it feels like a fun night out, not traditional speed dating.

The capital of Canada, Ottawa is known for being exceptionally clean and green. Famous for its luscious green trees, landmark parks, rivers and hills, the nation’s capital is a popular destination for music festivals, bilingualism, and of course, the world’s largest outdoor ice-skating rink. 

If you’re looking for the best places to meet Ottawa singles, check out the Ottawa Art Gallery or the Ottawa School of Art, where you will find singles who love appreciate the arts. The Gatineau Park and Rideau Canal are open all-season activities including skating, snow-shoeing, walking or cycling for singles who love nature and a little more adventure. Our personal favorite is the Byward Market – the perfect place to spend a lazy afternoon browsing and supporting local producers.

Ottawa’s nightlife comes alive along Ottawa’s downtown riddled with museums, theatres, boutiques, restaurants, pubs and bars – including Wellington Street, Rideau Street, Sussex Drive, and Elgin Street.  With Ottawa’s singles raring to go out and socialize in real life (IRL), it’s time to delete your online dating app. Secret RSVP is a brand new way to mingle with other awesome, fun-loving and adventurous singles like you!

Secret RSVP™ is a unique way for Ottawa singles to meet new people and connect for genuine relationships. Our events are specially designed for you to meet others in a relaxed and casual setting with low pressure.

In a live event, usually with between 35 to 50 singles, you can simply use the Secret RSVP™ app to secretly choose whom you’re interested to meet in smaller intimate groups for fun ice-breaker games and activities! No one will know whom you’re interested to learn more about. You can just focus on being yourself and showing others your shining personality – you know, the one that makes you attractive as a person in real life! Learn more about how Secret RSVP™ is different (and in our opinion, way better!) than online dating, speed dating, or singles mixers.

We designed Secret RSVP™ as an alternative to speed dating. While some have described Secret RSVP™ as “online dating in reverse”, or “speed dating in groups”, Secret RSVP™ is really the world’s 1st live-matched events! We’ve taken the best of the most popular ways singles meet, removed the worst parts, and added our secret sauce! While some people may enjoy speed dating as a method for meeting new people, we know it’s not for everyone and definitely not for us!

There are many Ottawa speed dating events and singles mixers readily available so if that’s something you enjoy, then we won’t stand in your way. But, if you’d rather do something unique, fun, modern and more interesting then you’ve come to the right place! Learn more about how Secret RSVP™ is different (and in our opinion, way better!) than online dating, speed dating, or singles mixers.

Learn more about how our events are transforming the dating scene.

Our live-matched dating nights in Ottawa have a limit on specific ages, however, we do allow a 1 – 2-year leeway outside these ranges. So if you’re outside this age range, please let us know your interest by joining our club list for future events in your age group.

The best way to know what new things we have planned is to get on our Secret RSVP Club list. We’ll notify you as soon as tickets are available for any of our upcoming Ottawa singles events!

We’ve actually been featured in quite a few places which you can read on our about page.

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